Negative people will never cease to be in our midst, no matter how much we try to select people we interact with. We will keep having them around in our homes, places of work, schools, places of worship, and others. Funnily enough, they are there to make this world an interesting place. Confused?
Have you ever had to reflect on and adjust your character, eating disorder, lifestyle, dressing, and so on because someone condemned you or talked to you rashly? That is one of the advantages of negative people. However, there are many side effects of having them torment your life often. That is why we need to avoid them or keep them at arm’s length. We want to look at how to identify negative people in our lives to know how to avoid them.
Contents
- 1 Who are Negative People?
- 2 What are the Characteristics of Negative People?
- 3 How to Identify Negative People
- 3.1 Negative people are never positive.
- 3.2 They are always complaining.
- 3.3 They always expect the worst.
- 3.4 Negative people are always upset and sensitive to insults.
- 3.5 Negative people feel too perfect
- 3.6 They always complain.
- 3.7 Bad news gives such people joy.
- 3.8 They rarely love.
- 3.9 Negative people can convert everyone.
- 3.10 They are always right, while others are wrong.
- 3.11 When they say something positive, it is always followed by ‘but’.
Who are Negative People?
Negative people are pessimists, those who see only the worst in everyone and everything. They exhibit the attitudes of the defeatists. They already lost the battle before starting and they want others to do so by discouraging them from giving it their best shots. Knowing how to identify negative people helps you to avoid them or be careful around them.
According to Dell Medical School, Negativity “A tendency to be downbeat, disagreeable, and skeptical. It’s a pessimistic attitude that always expects the worst. Negative outcomes are bad outcomes like losing a game, getting a disease, suffering an injury, or getting something stolen.”
What are the Characteristics of Negative People?
First, these negative people can affect our happiness if we do not know how to deal with them. This could also lead to depression if we allow them to occupy enough space in our lives. They make you feel distressed when you are around them and do not give a hoot about your feelings, as long as they are satisfying their selfish desire. They are always pessimistic, judgmental, discouraging, fault-finding, suspicious, and negative. No matter how careful you are around them, they will always find a way to make you feel bad or cut short your joy.
They are those people who discourage you from reaching your goal or find something wrong in your life at that point you feel fulfilled and happy. They always know when to come in to disrupt your positivity. If they cannot find anything against you, they recoil to their shell. They hardly ever rejoice with people but are quick to offer their handkerchiefs if they are grieving.
The major problem with staying long with such people is that they make you feel negative about yourself and doubt your ability. That is why you must handle them well or avoid them completely and stick to people who make you feel positive.
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How to Identify Negative People
Before I proceed, do not mistake correction for negativity. When someone corrects you, they do it in a way that you will not feel bad or inadequate, but the aim of negative people is otherwise. Let us look at the ways to identify the negative people in your life.
Negative people are never positive.
They hardly recognize positive situations and always find reasons to condemn anything that makes others happy. In short, they are called killjoys. They can swap your mood and make you wonder why you exist on Earth.
They are always complaining.
They whine a lot about almost everything and would never be pacified unless they are forced to shut up or they are satisfied with the level of whining. There is always something to complain about these people, even when others do not see anything; they are too critical to see something.
They always expect the worst.
This is why they would always be the ones to say, “I said it…” They will always figure out everything wrong with a project and find reasons to feel on top of the world as the discoverer of the problem.
Negative people are always upset and sensitive to insults.
They know when people are being rude or lack good manners. They know when a child is not properly trained. They overanalyze a situation that you could start seeing reasons with them and back out.
Negative people feel too perfect
To a negative person, every other person is wrong, except them. If you happen to be right, they try to talk down on your ability. They just want to always be in charge and the best among their equals. If they don’t feel that way, they make every other person feel bad.
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They always complain.
Even when there is nothing to complain about, negative people see reasons to complain. They have a lot to complain about in life, even when they are better than others in the group. Complaining tickles their mind and gives them a relaxed feeling.
Bad news gives such people joy.
They can only call when something bad happens, to let you know or console you if you are a victim, but would rarely do it if it were the other way round. They also seem to magnify a problem and make you see the bigger picture negatively.
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They rarely love.
Most of the time, negative people cannot be seen as being supportive or loving; instead, they do what will take away the joy in your heart. Their constant criticism takes away their ability to love.
Negative people can convert everyone.
With a constant negative attitude, others around them could start seeing reasons with them and join the club. This also sucks the energy in others and makes them feel so despondent to pick up from where they stopped
They are always right, while others are wrong.
Negative people always assume to be the only intelligent people in the group and always feel too smart, even in their ignorance.
When they say something positive, it is always followed by ‘but’.
This will now change the mood of the other person, which was the negative person’s aim. They know how to dash your hope and destroy your self-esteem with their negative and sneering comments.
I’m sure by now, you have pictured people who fall into this category. You may also be one of them. Follow this link to look we would look at various ways to stay positive.
I hope you find the article valuable. Feel free to drop a comment or add your experiences with a negative person.
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