How to Stay Positive: Don’t Ignore these Top Ways

Before we proceed, I would like to remind you that staying positive is a lifestyle that you must display every day in your relationship. It is not something that you learn, act on it and relax, believing that it will take care of itself. That is why you must be intentional about your lifestyle and continue to establish how to stay positive always.

The last time, we talked about how to identify negative people. Today, we are looking at how you can stay positive. Whether you are a negative person or not, you have something to learn from here: either to brush yourself up or to acquire something new. It will benefit your relationship as well. Remember that personal development is important in every relationship; do not forget that.

Bo Bennett said that having a positive mental attitude is asking how something should be done, instead of saying that it cannot be done. You can repeat that until you have chewed and digested it properly.

How to Stay Positive Always

Here are ways to maintain a positive attitude, even when the situation is chaotic:

Your attitude matters a lot.

The way you present yourself before others is very necessary. That does not mean you should not always be the best, both in the public and private. Staying positive and constructive is required of you all the time. You may not have all that is required of you, but with constant self-assessment, you are sure to get there. Believe me; every effort put in place to become positive is worth it.

Always see something good in every situation.

This is one of the best ways to stay positive. No matter the condition you find yourself in, no matter the people involved, remain positive. This attitude is what I learned very late in life. I was that lady who worried a lot and hardly saw a flicker of light in a challenging situation. Anything made me feel bad, causing me to fall into depression. Now, I refuse to let that kind of lifestyle rule over my life. I have peace like a river and I enjoy tranquility amid the storm.

Nothing makes me feel bad for a long time. The moment the feeling comes, I start looking for something good in that situation and I must find one. What about you? Do you still worry about little things? Do you feel bad because you lost your money in a business deal? Do you fall into depression and become suicidal over something you should have been grateful for?

This is especially true for those who lost a thriving relationship. Always bear in mind that people are not what they project themselves to be. You could trust someone with the last ounce of your blood, only for the person to shock you the next minute.

The moment you understand that you should give the benefit of the doubt to every human being, you will be free from heartbreak. Do not kill yourself because your lover left. Stay positive and know that someone better is being prepared by God and He wants you to have an awesome experience in marriage.

You can only meet and keep a good person if you have a positive attitude, so if you want the best gift, quit building a wall in your heart and concluding that love is not worth it, and start building a bridge, giving people the chance to access you and have a splendid moment with you.

Always be optimistic.

Live in a positive environment. When a dog that does not eat feces starts associating with a dog that does so, it will start eating feces. That is a Nigerian adage. If you think it is a lie, check out some people who drink or smoke excessively. How did they learn it? People you associate with will always rub off their lifestyle on you. You can start learning how to spend less time with negative people and start spending quality time with positive people.

The information you allow to penetrate your life is also very important. Filtering the information or exiting some social media groups, or even blocking some people will do you a whole lot of good. Optimistic people always stay positive.

Do not let fear hold you captive.

Have you ever been in a dream and a very strong man advances with a weapon to kill you? Have you noticed that the more you run, the worse the situation becomes? You could even see so many of them approaching you. Now, flip the coin. Have you noticed that in those dreams you were able to face the strongman without fear, he fled or you destroyed or disarmed him? That strongman is an example of fear.

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Take away fear and self-doubt and focus on becoming the positive person of your dreams.

Find out what you could do to remain focused, even amid a raging storm. Assuming you made a mistake, dust your ass off and pick up from where you stopped. In essence, take risks, they are part of your growth. They also help you stay positive.

Add value to people’s lives.

Be what you want to see in others and help them become that by becoming a role model. Be friendly. Do not withhold any information that would help someone succeed in life, even if they are your perceived enemy. Boost someone’s mood with your presence. Lend a hand. Give a lift. Listen to people when they want to share their problems with you. If you have the solution, give them. If not, help them the little you can or direct them to the right source. In everything, do not add to their sorrow. Encourage people as much as you can. Now, when you do these and more, you are modeling the way.

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Know that constructive and destructive criticisms are real and people will always be constructive or destructive when criticizing you.

Fact! Now, it is left to you to assimilate everything and let it rule your thoughts or filter through and take the relevant ones. Let me be honest with you, criticism helps your personal development goals. If you must grow in life, do not abhor or be scared of criticism. You may not reply immediately so as not to sound negative. Listen to the criticizer, and ponder over what they said before giving your reply. When you filter through, take positive action and work on your weaknesses. With time, you could become better than your criticizers to their dismay.

Do not always take life so seriously.

Sometimes, take a break and laugh over serious issues. See, stress is real. We all face it. Do not let it eat deep into you and cause you to always antagonize or get angry at every little thing. You are slowly killing yourself by doing that. Eat slowly, talk slowly, walk slowly.

Do not always jump to a conclusion.

When you are not so sure of something, get the facts before making up your mind. Some people were murdered because they heard something and acted based on their impulse and the result was just tons of regrets. The reality? They can’t undo the past.

This is why you should learn how to take things slowly. It helps you stay positive. When it seems so difficult to stomach, get help. Talk to someone trustworthy and allow your mind to rest. Breathe in and refocus.

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Improve your self-esteem.

I love guys or ladies who exude self-confidence. E dey sweet my belle. Carry yourself high and move like nothing dey happen.

Always begin your day positively.

No matter what comes your way, refuse to give in to negativity. The way you start your day might affect every other area of your life. Start with a vibrant energy and keep grinding and pushing through. It is a great way to stay positive.

Be conscious of yourself and try to reply to people with positive responses. Do not get lost in the past and always know that failures and mistakes are inevitable as long as we breathe on earth. Be hopeful.

Be optimistic and find a way to always connect the dots. Let all your senses be active and enjoy life all the way. Laugh at yourself.

Be fun to be with. Be gentle with people. Do not try to revenge; sometimes, let go. Apologize when you are at fault and talk over issues when someone offends you. Be at peace with yourself and everyone around you. You cannot please everyone, but ensure you have tried your best in brokering peace.

Do not forget to put God at the center of it all. He is the almighty. In your weaknesses, involve Him. In all your wins, be grateful to Him. Commit your ways to Him and ensure your efforts are in line with the will of God. You are the apple of God’s eye, remember.

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