How to Deal with Boredom in Your Relationship: Powerful Secrets

Every relationship experiences periods of excitement, stagnation, fun, and boredom. When the relationship is having a long-term effect, you are likely to feel bored at one time or the other. Boredom is not bad because it has its usefulness, but it is bad when it dominates fun in the relationship.

If you wish to keep things fun, thrilling, and exciting, you will learn how to deal with boredom in your relationship and avoid certain mistakes. Not every day is Christmas, but you can make it look like Christmas. Those feelings and gush of excitement you started the relationship with might wane after some time, but you don’t need to allow it to burn to ashes before bringing the vibes and sparks back to life. In other news, this is not about relationships alone; it also happens in marriages. Here, I will teach you how to deal with boredom in your relationship and marriage.

How to Deal with Boredom in Your Relationship

Here are simple ways to bring back the spark and deal with boredom in your relationship and love life:

Disagree to agree.

We have heard of this several times. We have been told not to always flow with the status quo, especially, if the other person could be hurt. I am here to reaffirm that. As long as you are two different personalities, you must always disagree.

The decisions in the relationship should not always be made by one person…the head. Sometimes, good ideas can come from ‘the neck’ and ‘the head’ would have to bend to accept it. It might cause some form of disagreement.

But it is good to make it a healthy disagreement: no name-calling, no insult, no body-shaming, no bringing in of family history. In short, deal with anything that can cause you to attack each other’s self-esteem or self-image. However, always healthily speak your mind and allow your partner to do so.

Try something new.

Don’t always stick to the same restaurant, cinema, or any place of fun. It might seem easier because it took you time to settle for that, but there are other interesting places you could have fun. There are other sightseeing activities you may partake of. It will make you see life in another light and have something new to talk about, even to your friends.

Your personal goals are important.

Some people cause their partners to give up on their dreams and embrace the ones they would choose for them. This is especially true in a patriarchal setting. The women no longer have personal dreams but go by what the man dictates. Sometimes, the man has no other form of help than to subject her to a housewife, even though she wishes to work.

In addition, some people give up on going to school in a faraway place because it will affect their relationship, a relationship that may not work out. The bottom line is that they may not go to school again.

Have time for yourself.

This is very vital when looking for how to deal with boredom in your relationship. Some people in a relationship make it a duty to always be with each other. While this is advisable to enjoy each other’s company, it is also advisable to be apart for some time, to attend to other areas of your life.

Not only that; it is good to miss each other. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, remember. So, be absent for some time, but be there for each other at the right time.

Always flirt.

I love flirting a lot. In short, it makes me to be in charge of the game. Some people stopped flirting the moment they won the trophy. Be playful with each.

Some relationships are like father-daughter, uncle-niece, mentor-mentee relationships, and so on. The high voltage of respect and fear in the relationship will just burn down or suffocate any form of fun in the relationship.

I know it is good to address him as ‘Sir’, but sometimes, leave that level and come to a friendship level where you can tease each other, play, wink at each other, shake your bum for him, and all those funny stuff that sizzle the relationship.

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Do not make it all about sex.

When you remove SEX in some relationships, the outcome becomes zero. Always find other stuff to keep you busy and glued to each other aside from sex. This is another powerful secret to deal with boredom in your relationship and love life.

Be vulnerable.

I was with a friend one certain time and the way she was talking to her husband specified that all forms of romance and emotional connections are gone and have been replaced with ‘seriousness’, ‘busyness’, and so on. If this is your case, you should try to bring back the spark by connecting back through vulnerability. Let me expatiate more on this.

Most of the things that lead to the dying of the spark are too much seriousness. When flirting dies, it is replaced with seriousness. When you stopped playing with each other. When all you care about is yourself. When you intimidate your partner. When you take undue advantage. When you fear too much. When you try hard not to offend each other to ‘avoid trouble’. And so on. you are destroying the spark. And spark or feeling is the bond that glues both of you together.

Hence, being vulnerable to each other is a way to deal with boredom in your relationship and love life.

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Have some hobbies together.

When you do certain things together, it keeps the hope alive. Assuming you are both book lovers, you can read a book separately and talk about it. Do not spend most of your time away from each other. In a nutshell, have personal, as well as collective goals, and let them always bring you together.

Talk about your dreams together.

Another way to deal with boredom in your relationship and love life is to talk about your dreams. Both of you have separate dreams, you can always get each other involved and discuss the dreams. Where you need each other’s help, you let him or her in, where you need a professional help, both of you can discuss it and agree on whom to bring in and what it will cost. Where money is involved, it will be much easier for a partner to help the other because there is a common goal and one person’s win is the win of both of you.

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Be present at your partner’s special time.

Have you been in a relationship where your partner forgets about your birthday because of a flimsy excuse? It is very painful, I swear. Please, no matter how tight your schedule is, ensure you celebrate your partner’s special days. Even if you are far away, calling them and wishing them well or praying for them is very necessary. It shows that you care.

Spend quality time together.

Some people think spending quality time is by going to the beach or cinema together. It is part of it, but when you go out or stay indoors together and your partner does not feel your presence, you have not done well. Do stuff together and be there in person. Not when you hold him or her to your chest, you spend more than half of the time on the phone. Or when you go out together, you focus more on a guy you just met who is a football freak like you.

Dating Coach John Keegan explained that both of you can do lots of things together. It is another way to know things you both cherish.

Above all, determine what boredom is and try to avoid it.

Talk to each other when you are not getting the best and be ready to adjust to fit into your dream relationship. Both of you should work together for the good of the relationship and ensure that things are done the right way. Though you could break the rules sometimes, make sure you adequately apologize.

The above is how to deal with boredom in your relationship. Cherish every moment and ensure your love never goes down.

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