Why do Men Cheat? 13 Underlying Reasons

There is no excuse for cheating anywhere in the world. In short, even the men that cheat still condemn cheating, to show that it is not an action to be proud of. No reason is enough for the man to cheat. No case cannot be solved, if both parties reach a negotiable point. The cheater is solely responsible for cheating because we are all responsible for our actions.

Why do Men Cheat?

A study of 495 people revealed key reasons men cheat. I will explain many of the reasons men cheat below:

Social media

 Many factors increase the chances of men cheating. Today, social media has become a tempting or enabling ground for men to cheat. It does not mean that all men who cheat do so because they are on social media. Social media is not the only factor, however, it is one of the highest reasons men cheat.

Frustration

When a man is caught up in the web of a frustrating wife, he is likely to cheat. He becomes unhappy and unappreciated emotionally or sexually which makes the couple grow apart. 

He could be frustrated to find solace in the arms of a woman out there who is willing to be cheated on. This is especially true if the man is good and the wife is not ready to come to an agreeable term.

Broken home

Some men who grew up in a broken or distorted home also tend to cheat, especially if they did not heal properly and have a mental shift before getting married. The moment he carries the baggage of childhood’s negative memories of a cheating father or male figures in his life into adulthood, he is likely not going to maintain one relationship. This is because that was what he saw other men doing. 

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Lack of sexual satisfaction

Men who are not sexually satisfied by their wives are likely to cheat too. Such men feel ‘unloved’ by their wives; hence, they seek ways to fill the vacuum. They may not do so if they are restricted by self-discipline. But those who cannot discipline themselves enough or who find an enabling partner outside are likely to cheat.

Addiction and abuse of substance

Addiction and substance abuse are also likely to push men to cheat. When a man drinks or gets high, his resistance level gets low. This could make him do what he would not have ordinarily done. Gambling is also a risk factor in this category.

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Bad friendship

A bad company could make a man cheat. When a man keeps flocking around men who do not cherish and honor their marriage or relationship, he is likely to try it out one day. If successful without having the wife or girlfriend find out, it might become a lifestyle.

Childhood trauma

A man who was traumatized in childhood is left with a high risk of cheating. Rape, sexual abuse, or any kind of abuse or neglect could make him cheat if he did not work on himself before going into marriage. This is why he should treat every past emotional trauma before being hooked up in a relationship.

Narcissism

Narcissists have a high degree of cheating. It is just a natural trait in them. Their cheating may be driven by ego, revenge, selfishness, and so on. The worst part is that they are not really interested in the impact of their actions on their wives or girlfriends. They just want to do it because they feel they can get away with it. plus, a narcissist knows how to twist your head and blame you for the action they took.

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Sexual addiction

Addiction to sex may lead to insatiability, which in turn, may lead to cheating. It is worse among men with wives who have low sex drive. Sex addicts mostly cannot help it, though it is not an excuse at all. There is always a solution to every problem.

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Old age

A man who is aging could feel he is missing out and would want to prove a point that he is still active and agile. His wife may not have the strength to give him the sex the way he wants, leading him to look for girls young enough to call him ‘daddy’ or ‘grandpa’ for sexual satisfaction. This also answers the question of “why do men cheat?”

Opportunities

When a man finds an opportunity to cheat and he has no restrictions, he is likely to cheat. Poor boundaries and lack of self-discipline are enabling grounds for this kind of situation.

A man who finds it hard to refuse a tempting offer could find himself cheating when the opportunity shows itself.

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Addiction to pornography

Pornography addiction is one of the reasons men cheat. This is worsened if the wife or girlfriend is not available to ease himself. Pornography is much more available these days with the advent of social media and the internet.

Revenge

Revenge is another factor that answers the question, “Why do men cheat?” Some men who were hurt by their wives and could not forget may resort to cheating as a way of revenging the hurt. It is not advisable here because the wife may embark on a counter-revenge mission by committing murder maiming the husband or even cheating back.

No reason is enough for one to cheat. In a worst-case scenario, you can walk away and do it ‘honorably’. There is no honor in cheating. The negative effect far outweighs the reason you want to do it.

 Seek help if you find yourself cheating. Find out the reason you cheated and tackle it from the grassroots. Forgive yourself and resolve to commit to your relationship or marriage. It is also noteworthy to know that women also cheat. Find out here why women cheat.

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I hope you gained some insight from the options mentioned in answering the question, “Why do men cheat?” Do you think there is something I missed? Can you leave a comment and let others read from you?