How to Attract Your Dream Guy or Lady

Before I commence on how to attract your dream guy or lady, I want to point out that it is sad some people do not know what they want in life, marriage, career, and the rest. They go with the flow and whatever life offers them, they accept and swallow it, hook, line, and sinker. Then, the real trouble begins.

So, to attract your dream guy or lady, your first action is to be armed with the kind of person you would like to spend the rest of your life with. Now, this is far from his or her physical attributes because the person you want might come in a different skin and this might pose a threat to your decision. In essence, let your focus be on the personality traits. When you know the kind of person you want then, it may not be such a great task to find him or her.

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Note the Following about Yourself

Remember you attract your kind.

If you want to attract the best, be the best. If you want to attract your dream guy or lady, be what you are looking out for. You cannot expect to attract a cool, gentle, and lovable guy or lady, while you fight at every motor park, taking over the job of agberos (touts) from them.

So, be the best version of what you want. And if perhaps, you are a work in progress and still developing your character and personality (personal development), do not fear. Just keep building up. The main thing is to be teachable, as long as you are teachable, you can break bounds. And you never could tell, the right man or woman might be the next person you are apologizing to right now for offending him or her.

Know your personality.

You can take an inventory of your life and get honest with yourself. Understand your value system, principles, and beliefs. Study your behavioral pattern and know your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving yourself (personal development comes in here and we all need it) and do not relent. If it means giving the relationship a break to grow and develop yourself properly first, it is a very brave and encouraging decision. So, get the best out of yourself to attract someone beautiful. According to Pulse.ng, focusing on you is a great tool you need.

Oh! It remains yet a thing to help you attract your dream guy or lady.

Your life partner complements you.

Note that I did not so that your partner completes you. You are complete in yourself. When you meet the right person, it feels like you have been the best of friends for ages. Getting along with each other will never be difficult, very easy to communicate, and things to do in common, deeper understanding of each other, and so on. It is expedient to note that sometimes, you might meet as friends and have been working together before you realize that you are the best for each other. The feelings are always mutual.

Now, this leads me to point out something.

You could likely have a wrong conviction about someone.

This is especially true if you are fantasizing about the person based on some physical attributes. Let’s take, for example, most celebrities are people’s persons and are likely to attract everyone they meet. In this case, every of the opposite sex likely finds them attractive. This could be misleading, especially, if you are close friends. So, have you got the message? Let’s continue with these powerful tips on how to attract your dream guy or lady.

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 How to Attract Your Dream Guy or Lady

To attract your dream guy or lady, you should do the following:

Be yourself and live your true life.

I wanted to first say “Know yourself”, but we have treated that. So, be yourself if you want to attract the best guy or lady. You can repeat that. Live your life. Go about your business. Do not pretend to be who you are not to appear ‘good.’ Sometimes, the person you would end up with would love those things you hate about yourself. That is why self-confidence is a virtue you must embrace.

Do not look forward to someone who will complete you.

We said it earlier on and I want to expatiate on it better. See, some people are proud to say stuff like, “This is me, I cannot change. If you cannot accept me the way I am, you can get lost!” I know a woman that says that God beautified her with a ‘bad mouth,’ and that it is not her fault that she is saucy. This woman is still alive and breathing.

Now, if you belong to this category, you are far behind in being the best version of yourself. In short, in your mind, you are saying that your partner will complete you. This is to say that if you have a bad character, your partner should have a good character and cover up your lapses. You see that it is erroneous to expect someone to complete you. That notwithstanding, ask yourself if you can tolerate the person you are if you happen to be someone else. This is part of taking stock of your life. Look deeply within and draw out your negative characters. Then, work on them.

Go for qualities.

We have said that you should look beyond the physical and go for personality. Go for one who appeals to you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I want to see how far I can do justice to this point. Some people appeal to you from diverse points of view. For example, some people do not mind if one is romantic or not, they just want a ‘good girl’ or ‘nice guy’ for marriage.

A lady told her fiancé “As long as you can take care of me and the children…” This is her specification. Someone else wants a guy she could travel around the world with and would not mind contributing financially to that. A guy might prefer a lady who is so spiritual and attends Friday night prayers, while another would want the one he can take for clubbing the same Friday nights.

Here is where people get it wrong. You would prefer someone who is a party freak, but when you meet someone who prefers a calm environment or indoor activities, you make up your mind to settle with him or her. Then, the real war begins… the war of changing him or her into what you want. Are you drunk with alcoholic water? Lol.

Another example is this. Some guys want a business lady, who is in charge of her time, so she can always take care of the house. Now, the guy meets a lady banker and begins to plan marriage with her, even when it is obvious she won’t quit her job. If he marries her, he wants to force her into quitting her job. That’s absurd.

Also, some guys would prefer a career lady, but the moment they meet a lady who is not ready to work, they start planning how to make her a wife. Then, they want to force her to work. Why not go for what you want? Leave those ladies or guys, who do not resonate with your ideal partner. They will meet their kind, while you position to attract your dream guy or lady.

Even if you are in a relationship with such a person, it will do you good to call it quits and have your peace of mind rather than allow your emotions to lead you on. Then, at a particular juncture, you realize that you made a mistake. Some people have died early from wrong marriage choices; don’t add to the number. It is simple: do not think of marrying whom you want to change. If the person wants to change based on self-will, it is a different ballgame, but your stipulating their change is not ideal.

Don’t strike off the physical attributes completely.

Physical attributes are usually the first form of attraction, whether for friendship or love. For example, someone could like you based on the way you laugh or smile. But physical attributes are not enough because even the devil smiles.

However, you should look cool and attractive to attract your dream guy or lady. I’m sure you will not want to go for someone who always looks like a beggarly element, with poor dress sense, talks irritatingly, and so on. But, that could be your choice anyway. So, I will reiterate, that looks well beyond the physical features.

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Go to the place where you will meet your kind.

Well, we all meet people in different places, even in the places we least imagined. Someone said when it comes to love, you should not go for money, but if you want to marry a rich person, go among the rich and fall in love. As funny as this sounds, it should guide your decisions when it comes to how to attract your dream guy or lady. You want to marry an intellectually sound lady or guy, attend seminars, social functions, churches that are leadership-based, or places where like minds could be found. You want to marry a very dedicated churchgoer and you are looking for him or her in beer parlors. You are not yet serious.

There is my very good friend who is looking for a woman to marry. I already know his specifications. It was good that I spelled it out to him that he might not find her among his circles, his work environment, and the place he was residing. Thank goodness, he has relocated to a place where ‘real’ human beings live. In addition, he has upgraded his CV and started looking for a job where he could meet great ladies. Now, it is obvious he is serious. This could be you too. Get up and make a move.

I was also in this dilemma years back. I was in an environment that would be difficult to meet the rich and intellectually-minded. The people I interacted with were people whose thought patterns were not so upgraded. This affected my choice of a boyfriend then. But thank God the relationship is a history now. The kind of guys that come my way today are people my mum would not frown at or ask if that is all I could do. Lol. They are the people she could tell me “Well done for your choice.”

It is important to note that I upgraded my personality to attract the kind of guys I fantasize about. If you are one of us, I’m sure, you know what to do now. Hence, ensure you have the persona to attract your dream guy or lady.

There are so many points I could give you on how to attract your dream guy or lady, but we could stop here for now. I believe with the above points we have put down; you cannot be lost on your way to meeting the right partner. I wish you success. You may look around Lovemeandtour and learn other relationship-enhancing tips.

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