Is She Into Me?: How to Know if a Girl Doesn’t Like You

It is quite amazing when the signs are there and you still fall victim to wasted ‘toasting’ efforts. I mean, you keep asking yourself, “Is she into me?”

The truth is that the signs are always there for you to figure out if she is into you or not, but you do not see them because you are just looking and not watching. And the cause of it is that you don’t even know that there are signs to look out for.

Now, these signs are beyond the magical Hollywood signs of throwing her drink on your face, completely ignoring you, slapping you hard, or telling her ‘boyfriend’ that you are stalking her. When a girl does such to you when you only asked her out, then, she has a psychological problem.

She could be friends with you, treat you like a king, and still not interested in you. By the way, every good girl is nice. Being nice to you does not connote love. Got it?

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Is She Into Me? Let’s find out!

Some of the signs to look out for to know if she is into you are below. They may not be the only signs, but they are part of the signs. Do not ignore them to prove that you are an enterprising person.

I used to know one guy back then who would want to prove to me that no girl rejects him. He was really fighting seriously to prove that to himself. What is my business?

The more he fought, the more he realized that a bulwark was meeting his efforts. Not that he was not handsome or equal to the task, the truth is that every lady has a spec, just the same way you have a spec as a guy. He is a father now, by the way.

So, stop the doubts and quit wasting your efforts when there are so many other girls out there giving you some subtle signs. Okay, I’m being hard on you, pardon me.

I understand how painful it is when you like a girl and she is ‘proving hard-to-get,’ on top of your fineness and financial independence. But I just want you to know the truth which will set you free, bro. I want you to be happy. It is not her fault that the spark is not there. Do you get it? So, let me answer the question, “Is she into me?”

She indirectly places the card on the table that she is not interested in you.

As a lady, not all of us attended the school of bluntness. We may not bluntly tell you that we can’t go beyond ordinary friendship. But, we will certainly give you signs that we are not game.

Here, the lady in question gives you reasons upon reasons that would have been better if she screamed, ‘Guy, I am not interested, get the heck outta here!’ She tells you she’s busy. She gives you excuses why she cannot see you nor do what you requested of her. She posts pictures of herself with other guys having fun. She does anything to pass the information to you. It is now left to you to grab it.

She does not give you attention.

A girl who likes you will always give you attention, even if she has not said yes to you. She will do some stuff that screams ‘Guy, ask me out, please.’

But it is otherwise if she does not like you. When you are with her, she could give other things attention, except you. She could pity you occasionally and give you some attention, but it will not be adequate to give you satisfaction.

The girl comes out plainly to tell you that she is not interested. Not all girls do this, though. But some are bold and considerate enough to let you know. The chemistry is not just there and she cannot force it out.

She blocks you.

This one can make a guy go crazy, but then, he has no choice. So, you pick up your phone to call her, clear your throat, and get ready to say, ‘Hello, beautiful girl,’ only to hear the thump-thump sound of your phone. I understand that feeling. But, that is her way of saying, ‘Get the heck out of my life, guy’. Did you get the message? Of course, you did. Are you still asking, “Is she into me?”

She refuses to make plans with you.

If you like, include her in your will; if you like, don’t. She will not budge. This is different from a gold digger who came to swindle you. A genuine girl will not be moved by whatever plan you try to include her if she is not into you. For instance, if you talk about ‘our children’, she talks about ‘my children’. Simple.

You don’t feel the chemistry.

Your intuition will tell you “Guy, leave; she does not have feelings for you.” Personally, if I don’t have feelings for you, you will know instantly because I will apply all my feminine prowess to show you that. So, pay attention to her actions, they speak volumes. You don’t need to ask yourself again, ‘Is she into me?’ because the signs are there if there is no chemistry.

She is never going to ask when she will see you.

A girl who loves you will always be excited about anything that will get her to see you, at least at the initial time. In our case, she is reluctant about meeting you, unless she is coming to do ‘chop and clean mouth,’ according to a Nigerian parlance. Apart from that, she is not going to show interest in meeting you again.

She snaps at you.

If a girl you are interested in is easily irritated by you or gets angry easily whenever you try to do some lovey stuff, she is passing a message across. Forget about some of them that will impose on menstrual cramps. A girl whose action is brought about by menstrual cramps, but still loves you will display it. She will try to be loving and fair. And if she went overboard with any negative attitude, she would be quick to apologize. So, all the snappy stuff shows that she is not into you.

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She does not always pick up your calls

Neither does she call back or text you! The message is clear already. See, if a girl loves you, she will call you at random, unless she is a stingy person.

If you tell her that you are going somewhere, she will call to find out how it went. If you are sick, she will call to find out your state of health. If you have not called for a long time, she will call to know what happened. So, any girl that does not behave this way, should be given a second thought. You don’t need to ask again, “Is she into me?”

She goes solo for a long time.

If a girl you are getting to know avoids you for days or does not respond to you the way you feel is normal, then, forget about her. A girl who loves you will never ghost you. Even if it happens, the way she will apologize will show you how much she cares about you. If her apology is straight from the heart and she shows it by trying not to repeat such an action, then she cares.

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She friend-zones you.

If the girl keeps letting you know that you are just a friend, then, that is what you are. Nothing else matters. Here, she will keep stressing your name, instead of adding some sweet names. She does not even care how you feel about anything because she is not emotionally connected to you. No need to ask yourself again, ‘Is she into me?’ when she friend-zones you.

She avoids physical contact.

If she is not into you, she is not going to get so close. If you touch her, she will politely remove your hand. More simply, if her body language is stiff, forget about her.

A girl that loves you will be vulnerable to an extent with you. She will make eye contact or blush when you look at her. But if she focuses her eyes on you without blinking, she is passing a message across to you. According to WiKiHow, eye contact is a necessary sign that she likes you.

Like I said, other signs answer the question, “Is she into me?” However, these are enough to convince you. Do not feel bad because a girl does not like you. Remember that love is better when it is mutual than when it is one-sided.

Who says it is bad to be without a relationship for some time? You can use that opportunity to work on upgrading yourself. It is not bad. Keep being you, the world does not revolve around one person. Make friends with people and be happy.

Till I come your way next time! Leave a comment and share the post if you enjoyed a great read. Before then, learn how to flirt effectively using the tips in this link. You may also want to know how to attract your dream lady here.